Is Your Job Making You Unhappy at Home?
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In an ideal world we’d all be super satisfied with the job we do every day. In reality, that’s not always how it pans out. Sadly, many of us are in jobs that don’t make us feel valued or fulfilled.
Some people are prepared to accept that this is just how it is. Are you one of these people? If you’re okay with that: good for you. Perhaps you have hobbies and interests outside work that make up for an unsatisfying 9-5. Maybe you feel the salary and perks you get in return are worth it. If that works for you, keep doing what you’re doing.
However, many people find that their unhappiness at work doesn’t end when they leave the office at the end of the day. After all, the real problem with work dissatisfaction is that it has a way of leaking out into other areas of our lives too. Just think: the average Brit spends the equivalent of eleven and a half years at work over the course of their lifetime. It’s only natural that how we feel about our job will affect our overall level of happiness.
Could your job be making you unhappy at home? Here are a few questions to ask yourself:
How is your work/life balance looking?
If you feel that your work/life balance has got out of control, it may be time to re-evaluate what you can do about it. Social scientists have theorised that a poor work/life balance can have a huge effect on our emotional well-being at home.
Do you find yourself snapping at family members?
Think back to the last time you snapped at your spouse or your children. Was it really because they forgot to take the bins out/knocked over a cup of tea/left their papers all over the kitchen table… or was it a kickback from a stressful work situation earlier in the day?
How do you feel on a Sunday evening?
How you feel on a Sunday evening can give a genuine insight into how you really feel about your job. If you find it easy to relax and enjoy the last of your weekend, signs are good that you’re generally satisfied. If, on the other hand, you’re one of the 78% of us who have admitted feeling unhappy, anxious or stressed at this time of week, you might have a problem.
Do you find it difficult to deal with conflict at home after a day at work?
Do you find it harder to deal with the kids’ squabbles after a day in the office than you do over the weekend? This could just be because you’re extra tired after work, or it could be because an unfulfilling job has zapped all your emotional energy.
Is it difficult for you to enjoy weekday evenings?
How you usually spend weekday evenings could be an indication of how stressed out you are. Those of you who find it easy to relax into quality family time are likely to be fairly satisfied with life as a whole. Alternatively, if you find it difficult to ‘switch off’ from work, you might want to address this.
Do you get distracted easily at home?
It’s natural to drift off occasionally when you’re talking to family members (especially if you’re not as enthusiastic about the subject matter as they are!). But if you often find yourself replaying work situations from earlier in the day instead of engaging with them, this could be causing even more of a problem.
If any of these questions have struck a nerve for you, don’t panic. There might be some easy ways you could improve your job satisfaction levels and increase your overall happiness. Why not start with our advice for reducing work-related stress?
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